I want to make sure I perform better oral sex on my wife. What is the best way to do this? Is there a good way to learn this?
This question is submitted by Mark M. from Chicago and it is an excellent question. A big part of being a good lover as both a man and woman is oral sex (giving and receiving).
Keep in mind that communication is key—this is a topic that you might want to talk to your lover about one evening when you are not making love, but are naked in bed. The best time to discuss oral sex is when you are both feeling sexy…but not horny.
So, start the conversation with “Honey, women have always mystified me (this is a true statement for all men). You know how much I like seeing you feel good when we make love, but I wonder if I’m doing things right when I go down on you”. Just tell her that there was no rule book or class at school, and that you have not been intimate enough with anyone to ever teach you exactly what to do to give her the most pleasure possible.
Then, SHUT UP, and listen. She’ll either say she’s shy and does not want to talk about it, or if you’re lucky, she’ll start explaining her anatomy. If you are lucky enough for the anatomy lesson, just listen and ask questions. You might even explain to her how her ‘feel good’ spots map to yours. If she says she does not want to talk about how you can please her, y0u’re still in luck. We found this video and although it is two lesbian women…we have used their techniques and they work wonders!
Warning! The video and site are VERY EXPLICIT.
Even if you never see the video, you can benefit from two words. SLOW DOWN!
Women take a long time to warm up—and the fast back and forth movement that is typical for a guy to get his rocks off is NOT a movement that works for women. RE-READ the previous sentence until you get it in your head (we’re talking to men obviously). That fast back and forth movement with your tongue, hand or fingers does not work for women to get them horny. Never did and won’t work for you tonight! It only feels good to a women AFTER 30 minutes of slow and carefully placed nudges, tugs, caresses and licking of the key areas of her clitoris and vagina.
REPEAT: Do NOT think that speedy movement of any kind will make her horny and want to cum. It will only frustrate her and just proves that you got your pussy eating lessons from watching porn made for guys.
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